I can remember the exact moment when I learned the powerful lesson of wanting something so badly and yet detaching myself from the outcome.
It was my first year in the business and I was running through a streak of “no’s” in the home. I was starting to freak out – thinking of my next lead bill and the goals I had set that seemed to be slipping through my fingers.
The last house I sat in, I knew I wasn’t fully present. I was thinking about myself and all my problems during the appointment.
My next appointment was with an elderly woman who lived out in the country. I felt fear and frustration because my track record with older, single clients was not good. I can remember pulling up at the base of her long driveway and pausing before making my way up to the house.
I decided to do something different. I decided not to care. I decided that if I did get the app or if I didn’t get the app, it wasn’t going to matter. Whether I was in that house for 10 minutes or 1 hour, I was going to be fully present, do my best to help the client, and not care about the results. [Side note: I had 3 more clients to see that day which bolstered my confidence to even think this way!]
Well guess what? I didn’t get one app….I got 2 apps! It felt so good to go in there not “needing” to get a result. I was able to completely detach myself from the outcome, which enabled me to be fully present and give my very best.
I read about this concept recently in Deepak Chopra’s “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.” He says:
The Law of Detachment says that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn’t mean you give up the intention to create your desire. You don’t give up the intention, and you don’t give up the desire. You give up your attachment to the result.
This is a very powerful thing to do. I challenge you to try it this week. Make your dials with detachment – focus on the activity and not the results (this will help you overcome feelings of rejection)! Sit with your families with detachment – focus on helping them to the best of your ability whether you get an app or not! Focusing on the activity vrs. the result is going to FEEL much better, and you will start to do your activity with joy. I dare you to try it!
Onward and upward!
