Act As If
Newspaper columnist and minister George Crane tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her husband. “I do not only want to get rid of him, I want to get even. Before I divorce him, I want to hurt him as much as he has me.
Dr. Crane suggested an ingenious plan “Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he means to you. Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as kind, considerate, and generous as possible. Spare no efforts to please him, to enjoy him. Make him believe you love him. After you’ve convinced him of your undying love and that you cannot live without him, then drop the bomb. Tell him that you’re getting a divorce. That will really hurt him.” With revenge in her eyes, she smiled and exclaimed, “Beautiful, beautiful. Will he ever be surprised!”
And she did it with enthusiasm. Acting “as if.” For two months she showed love, kindness, listening, giving, reinforcing, sharing.
When she didn’t return, Crane called. “Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?”
“Divorce?” she exclaimed. “Never! I discovered I really do love him.” Her actions had changed her feelings. Motion resulted in emotion.
What is it that YOU are wanting to change?
Do you want to LOVE making dials? Act as if you do! Put a smile on your face before each dial! Pound your chest and declare “I love the phones!” Your physiology will change your brain chemistry which will change your emotion!
Do you want to increase your close ratio in the home? Act as if you are already a Top Producer! You’ll treat your schedule differently. You’ll treat your clients differently! Act as if you are already there and see your confidence soar!
Do you want to qualify for Cancun? Act as if you’re qualified! Visualize the fun and association you will have with your mySFGteam! Add it to your affirmations:
“Acting As If” is an important step in the creative process. What do you want to change that you can “act as if” it’s already here?
“Act as if everything you desire is already here…treat yourself as if you already are what you’d like to become” –Wayne Dyer